AUTISTIC PRESENCE
Support for Autistic Women
If your experience as an autistic woman has been anything like mine, you know what it’s like to feel bewildered and overwhelmed by a world not set up for your thriving.
Because girls and women are conditioned to be nice and to accommodate others before ourselves, our authentic self-expression has often been masked by our efforts to be sweet and well-behaved, aiming to earn approval from others.
Perhaps others got to benefit from our efforts to fit in, but we know that all the masking has taken a huge toll on us: the burnout, the exhaustion, the loneliness, the grief of not getting to be our true selves.
Adding to the emotional processing load for many of us is the weight of not having known we were autistic until late in life because our traits went unnoticed, or were labeled in girlhood as too demanding, too sensitive, or too stubborn.
The truth is, we aren’t “too” anything. Misunderstood, maybe, but too much of anything? No way.
Who are we, then?
We are deeply sensitive feelers. Talented, empathetic leaders. Brilliant thinkers. Organized, reliable, creative, inventive single women, married women, moms, grandmothers, sisters, daughters, healers, scientists, entrepreneurs, authors, students, teachers, and guides. The list goes on and on. There are as many versions of us as there are stars in the sky.
But what is common, is that we are right to be who we are: stewards of a neurotype that is vital to human flourishing and evolution.
Who we are, is a gift.
And being around other autistic women can help you remember that.
If you’re seeking community, understanding, or strategies for more fulfilling and sustainable ways to live as an autistic woman, you’re in the right place. There are three ways to work with me, through one-on-one coaching, through my Autistic Women Free Discussion Group, or through my Autism and the Menstrual Cycle Free Discussion Group.
I’d love to meet you. I invite you to scroll down to view ways we can work together.
compassionate coaching
for autistic women
Navigate the way Forward with Support from Someone Who gets it
Are you an autistic woman struggling with:
Overwhelming burnout that others don't seem to understand?
Relationships that drain rather than nourish you?
Career challenges where your unique strengths go unrecognized?
A sense that you're constantly masking who you really are?
I see you. I hear you. And most importantly—I understand, because I've been there.
A Different Approach to Coaching
Many coaching methods push for quick fixes or tell you exactly what to do. They race ahead without making space for the complex inner world of an autistic person.
My approach is different. Using an Internal Family Systems (IFS) - informed structure, I create a safe space where we:
Slow down to truly meet you where you are
Validate your experiences and challenges
Listen deeply to all parts of you and what they need—including the hesitant, protective, and overwhelmed parts
Move at a pace that feels right for you
This gentle yet powerful process helps you reconnect with your authentic self and discover your own wisdom about the path forward.
My Qualifications
As a late-discovered autistic woman, I bring both personal experience and professional training to my coaching approach.
I trained with Coaching with Spirit: Coaching with IFS 2: Deepening Into Internal Family Systems (2024) and I’m certified as a Trauma Recovery Coach through the International Association of Trauma Recovery Coaches (2025). Through both of these programs, I’m engaged in ongoing professional supervision to ensure the quality of the support I provide.
I walk this path myself: I’ve worked with my own IFS practitioner for nearly two and a half years, and working with my parts has become something of a spiritual practice for me. Each day, I check in with my own parts and tend to any that need my care and attention. I’ve found that doing so establishes a foundation from which I can make choices that serve my whole system, leading to less turmoil, and more peace.
Autistic women face unique challenges.
I have navigated them.
And now I’d love to help you do the same.
What You Can Expect
Together, we'll work toward outcomes that matter to you, which might include:
Recovering from burnout without masking your authentic self
Developing more satisfying relationships that honor your needs
Locating your voice and setting boundaries that feel life-affirming
Reconnecting with your strengths and what makes you come alive
Developing sustainable self-care practices designed for your neurology
How We'll Work Together
60-minute sessions via Zoom
Initial two sessions ($120 each) include assessment and goal-setting to create a foundation
Ongoing sessions ($140 each)
Flexible pricing available; I understand the employment challenges many autistic individuals face
Ready to Take the Next Step?
Book a free 30-minute consultation to ask questions and see if we're a good fit.
Or schedule your first session directly if you're ready to begin.
Autism and
the menstrual cycle
free discussion group
Autistic people benefit from consistency and predictability, so the ever changing rhythms of a woman's body can be one more overwhelming challenge to navigate in a world full of overwhelming challenges.
But if we become students of our menstrual cycles, we can better learn how they operate, and what we need at each phase. In turn, this knowledge can help us heal from burnout, and help us protect ourselves against the severity of future burnouts.
Come together in community with those who share the experiences of autism and menstruation in an opportunity to learn from each other, and to be seen, known, and valued.
At each meeting, we join on Zoom to read an approximately 15 minute excerpt from Wild Power by Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer, published by Hay House UK.
Audio version plays, and the Kindle version displays simultaneously, for all to follow along. Afterwards, the group opens for discussion and sharing.
Please leave 90 minutes; the meeting length depends on the size of the group and the number of shares.
Maximum group size is 15.
Cameras on or off is okay.
All those who menstruate or have menstruated are welcome.
Whether you’ve known you’re autistic for a long time, you’ve just newly discovered that you’re autistic, or you’re in a limbo space of wondering if you might be autistic at all, you are very welcome here.
Thank you to Alexandra Pope and Sjanie Hugo Wurlitzer of the Red School for permission to include the book.
Autistic women
Free Discussion Group
Come together in community with other autistic women to share experiences, learn from each other, and be seen, known, and valued.
Each month we join on Zoom to explore one or more aspects of the autistic experience in depth, with an emphasis on how we experience autism as women, and how our experiences may present differently from men’s due to gender conditioning.
This is a warm, inclusive space that aims to validate and affirm the gift of who you are.
In May we’ll be reading an approximately 15 minute excerpt from Looking After Your Autistic Self by Niamh Garvey, published by Hodder & Stoughton Ltd.
Audio version will play, and the Kindle version will display simultaneously, for all to follow along. Afterwards, the group will open for discussion and sharing.
Please leave 90 minutes; the meeting length will depend on the size of the group and the number of shares.
Maximum group size is 15.
Camera on or off is okay.
All who identify as female are welcome.
Whether you’ve known you’re autistic for a long time, you’ve just newly discovered that you’re autistic, or you’re in a limbo space of wondering if you might be autistic at all, you are very welcome here.
Thank you to Niamh Garvey for permission to include the book.
